I bought this book years ago. I think that EVERYONE on the planet should read it. Some people think they know everything there is to know about gender roles and sexual discrimination, but if they were to read this book, they would realize how much they don't know. This book has made me able to assess various situations much more accurately. It is like a guide to the actual mechanics of how messages of power and status are communicated between men and women, boys and girls.
This book talks about many unspoken rules about our behavior that enforce a legacy-based, unearned hierarchical status. For example, after reading this book, I was riding the train to work, and a man sat next to me. I was taking up less than half of the seat (2-person seat) but he became so uncomfortable that I did not shrink to allow him to expand beyond his half of the seat (read the book) that he actually got up and found another seat. This entire topic is very close to my heart because I have experienced quite a bit of surprisingly blatant discrimination in job interviews and at work. This is a really special book. I've read several books and taken several classes on this topic but never found the kind of analysis and specifics on body language and behavior that is in this book anywhere else.